For many, if not all, submissive men, being spanked is one of the core practises of Female Domination. Whether She spanks you as a bad boy, or a naughty husband, or a fully sissified panty slave, the fact of the matter is that you are turned over Her lap with your bare behind exposed for her to slap, paddle, strap or even cane.
The degree to which you are rendered helpless before She spanks you is
one of the key elements, all of which are rooted in the humiliation of this practise for a grown man. Some women prefer not to use restraints and to just put their man over their laps and expect him to keep his place without their having to do anything much about it. Here the added humiliation is that he stays there, no matter what, because he is completely submissive to Her and he accepts that She spanks him.
Some women like to hold the man’s right, or left, arm up behind his back to control him, other women will clamp his legs between theirs for a stronger grip on him. And then there are women who prefer a more helpless spankee, with his arms bound behind his back, perhaps, and his ankles cuffed together, and even his knees held together by either his pants or a belt.
However She prefers it, the essence of the matter is the same. She is the Spanker and you are the spankee. In any household where She takes him over Her lap and spanks his bottom for as long as She wants there can be no doubt that She is the ruler and he is the ruled.
By most accounts that I have read, spanking the male can be highly arousing for a Dominant Female. The sense of power and control has a strong erotic edge to it. And conversely, the submissive male derives an even stronger charge from being on the receiving end.
Of course, being spanked is painful, in varying degrees, depending on her mood and the instrument(s) applied. But it is nothing like as painful as a real whipping, or a session with a heavy paddle. At the same time, a spanking is more intimate, more humiliating and far more erotic, because of the physical contact between the spankee’s groin and Her thighs.
There is an element here of the Maternal power of a mother, who may spank her son now and then during childhood. There is considerable argument about the value of such spankings. One side argues that all such violence towards children is wrong, while a more traditional side sees an occasional spanking for truly awful behaviour as being quite acceptable. Both sides agree, however, that more than an occasional spanking for naughty children is not acceptable and shades into child abuse. As with so many aspects of raising children there are grey areas here and parents have to make up their own minds about where to draw lines.
But for adult males who are spanked by Women the transfer of power to Her is all important and has elements of the imbalance in power between a mother and a young, naughty son, perhaps caught shop lifting, or breaking a neighbor’s window with a stone. Over Her lap goes the male, to be punished and humiliated. The humiliation, of course, being very much stronger for the adult male who is spanked
over his Lady’s knee.
For some submissives, a light degree of bondage during spanking is a door to a greater repertoire of bondage activities. Being tied up, or down, and kept that way for a time period that is entirely up to Her who binds you is one of the great psychological pathways of Female Domination. Equally, spankings over the knee with a hairbrush can be part of a process that leads to much fiercer corporal punishments involving canes, whips and paddles. The spankee becomes accustomed to the pain and discomfort and as time goes by can take more severe beatings. Ultimately some men may find themselves dangling from a hook on the ceiling while She flogs them bloody with a cat-o-nine-tails. That, however, is not the subject for this post.
To be spanked every night and then used for Her sexual pleasure is also one of the great highways into the sex submissive’s dream of a life under Her control. With every spanking he slips deeper into submission and farther from the machismo ridden independence he once had. Regular spankings, coupled with other intimate forms of domination reinforce one another and put the spanked male firmly under his Woman’s control.
When the Lady Spanker comes home from work and finds her man busy fixing dinner and pats him on the ass and whispers in his ear that such devotion might earn him a reward later, the fact that he is regularly put over her knee for a spanking is the inescapable grounding for their relationship. A regularly spanked bottom is also a sensitive one, a little tender, a little sore, and the man it’s attached to is constantly aware of that little tingle. With the tingle come the memories of being over Her knee and staring at the floor, or her shoes, while her hand, hairbrush or paddle is being used to spank him. And with those memories comes the certainty that he will be back over that knee soon enough for his next spanking. So that little pat, or perhaps a bit more than that, a little rubbing on that tender behind, combined with her voice in his ear can ignite a cascade of erotic and masochistic feelings and desires.
When the spankee is also subject to chastity control, in whatever way She desires, and is not allowed any release except with her permission, the combination of being desperate for relief from the normal urges and the spankee’s sensations of
erotic humiliation and masochistic pleasure also reinforce one another and promote ever deeper levels of submission to the Dominant Female.
And let’s face it, for the submissive male, this is what we want. The FemDom dream is that submissive men surrender themselves completely to their Women, whether they’re Wives, Girl Friends, Goddesses or Mistresses. The sub male kneels before them, kisses their feet, and accepts whatever they demand from him. More often than not, such relationships will have a certain amount of spanking, of him by Her, and those spankings will loom large in his mind.
(Note: the world of M/f spanking is not our concern. But I will point out that
the visible world of spanking has changed mightily over the past 25 years. It was once a real rarity to find F/m spanking material. What was published in magazines was usually M/f and F/f. And it was well understood in those days that the F/f spanking material was often filling in for the F/m material that men were too ashamed to buy. Even purchasing F/m magazines exposed submissive men to casual and routine humiliations from pornography outlets and stores.
The internet has changed all that. A few google numbers show the pattern today.
594,000 spanking M/f
408,000 Men spanking women
528,000 spanking F/m
440,000 Women spanking men
557,000 spanking F/f
536,000 FemDom spanking
621,000 Erotic spanking
31,500,000 spanking in general…covering many topics.
So, while M/f spanking remains the dominant aspect of Spanking scene, the F/m side of things has grown explosively over the last six or seven years.)
Back in the dark ages of FemDom, it was the FemDom artists that really
carried the light for male submissives. And of those artists, Stanton was easily the most prominent. Here we have a pair of classic Stanton illustrations that demonstrate his particular style, when it came to a FemDom spanking.
First off, Stanton rarely left it to a hand spanking, though he had illustrated those in his early days. No, for Stanton, the Lady needed a paddle, usually large and squared off. For some reason, Stanton rarely drew rounded paddles.
Secondly, Stanton endlessly eroticises the buttocks and the breasts. Not only that but he juxtaposes them, the cleft between the Domme’s proud breasts signalling power and control, the curves of the spankee’s ass signalling helplessness and submission.
Thirdly, Stanton is attentive to the humiliating details of the act. His gorgeous Dominant is pulling down the spankee’s shorts with one hand, baring his almost absurdly plump buttocks, while accepting the paddle from a third party, who is witness to the spanking.
And then it begins! And from the first shot we know this is no little spanky-panky affair. The paddle is biting into that soft male ass tissue, and his upper body flexes up as he howls from the sting of it.
In this example of Stanton’s wonderful art, he gets in so many perfect details, such as Her arm gripping the spankee across his hip and back that you have to think that Stanton himself had experienced many a fierce spanking. Her knees are together, her upper body is partly rotated back to her right, and her right arm wields the paddle with considerable energy. That’s one male rump that will be scarlet and sore for days afterwards!
With Stanton’s art career, we also have a kind of time machine back through the slow, halting emergence of FemDom from the deep shadows that hid it from view in the pre-internet age. His early work is full of almost generic hard -leather F/f scenes, rendered in the style of the late 1940s and early 50s. Later, as he began the great Stantoons project he developed his own wild caste of FemDom characters and storylines that became famous among the submissive male legions around the world. Lily and Dolly of the Family Affair, the terrifying Princkazons, Stanton’s erotic imagination took off into the farthest reaches of the male fetish psyche.
Of course, nearly all the great FemDom artists have produced spanking art, with a few odd exceptions, such as Namio Harukawa, who never shows OTK scenes, only whippings. Then again, Harukawa’s central obsession is, umm, wedged several degrees farther down the line of FemDom practise than simple spankings over the knee.
Here’s a great Puyal classic featuring a stern Dominant Wife or Mistress giving a hairbrushing to her pantied, partially feminized househubby or servant. Puyal’s love of activity in the scene is strong here. Mr spankee is not enjoying this moment in time, but then he isn’t bound in any way and he even has his medium-high heels on the floor. He could walk away at any time. But, of course, he won’t, because he’s already in panties, already Her servant and already subservient to Her will. Her mouth drawn in a stern line, her hairbrush raised, the Domme here is intent on the work at hand. It’s likely that her slave will have a tender bottom for several days after this scene is over.
In contrast, here in Sardax world, the young lady spanking her guy is obviously enjoying herself. His ass is nice and rosy pink, his sock feet are up in the air and the full erotic power of a nice intimate spanking over Her powerful lap is on display. Sardax usually loads the sexual energy into his scenes and this is no exception.
Sardax also gives us powerful Women who are enjoying the activities of Female Domination. His Women who spank often have a smile on their lips and presumably a song in their hearts as they wield palms and paddles on male rumps.
Sardax also covers a great variety of scenarios in his art. Here’s another spanking, this time we have a male maid, feminized and gagged, pulled over his Mistress’s lap, his skirts lifted up so that his pantied behind can be soundly spanked by the light of a conveniently placed lamp. As usual, Sardax’s Lady is enjoying herself, and her male maid is not in bondage, emphasising his total submission to Her.
END OF PART ONE.
copyright Permian Systems 2008.
PART TWO is now available on Women Spanking Men– Eosuchus Femdom Dreams.